Children take their cues from the emotions and actions of parents and other significant people in their life.
If you are anxious or show upset about a procedure, your child is likely to respond with anxiety and upset.
If you stay calm, you will be more able to offer support, and your child will be more likely to stay calm too.
Seek Help for Yourself
When you are stressed and anxious about an upcoming procedure for your child, please seek out the support you need to be as calm as possible. Stress reducing strategies include deep breathing, meditation, yoga, exercise, listening to music and doing a favourite activity. Talking to a counselor or medication may sometimes be necessary.
Your Child Can Hear What You Say
Conversations with family, friends and other adults can be witnessed and overheard by your child. Bare this in mind when discussing your feelings about procedures with other people, whether by telephone or in person.
Avoid making statements like: “Oh he won’t let you do that” or “No he can’t do ….. [procedure]”.
These negative statements can sabotage your child’s successes. He may become more upset and resistant when undergoing a new examination or procedure, since you already believe and have stated that he is unable to do it.
Try to approach new procedures as a challenge that you and your child can face together, and be successful in together.